The Adrenal Fatigue Fix

Advertisements

Carob Pops & Banana Nice-Cream

something new I’d like to try

Ramblings

DSC07036

Today I was scared by the level of rage I could feel. A simple trigger as not being able to manage my kids to play without fighting and screaming like mads, drove me into the scariest of the rages I’ve ever experienced.

While I was aware that all the ruminating in my mind about being a failure as a parent will push me deeper into depression, I just couldn’t stop. So, I ended up having a miserable day despite the sunny day outside. 

It made me think more about the “purpose” … about how we can succeed as parent, about what chemical imbalances are involved into the mechanism of depression. For now, I can’t tell that I found my way nor the purpose. It will be for the psychologist to shed some light into creating some stops for the destructive ways my mind creates.

It goes like that: there is a trigger and I don’t press the right buttons to make everybody happy, then I start feeling angry, very angry about something or someone or even myself. In the end, I feel crushed by the responsibility I carry for my  special children. I feel guilty, I feel a failure and I feel like dying … but I’m well aware that dead isn’t an option for me. I’m not allowed escaping … It looks like I’m trapped forever into this perfect life. … at times I just don’t know what to do.

I refuse stubbornly depression medication due to its side effects and ineffectiveness, though some times I do feel like hiding inside somewhere … or running crazy without looking back. I’m probably a very unbalanced person.

There is this feeling of the bottom of every low human emotion. The most annoying is probably the feeling of no passion, no desire, no hope. I used to be such a passionate person with a huge love for life itself. Now, when I am blessed with much more than other people have, I just feel like a failure. I’m just empty.

I tried to go inside myself to find what is broken and fix, but inside me is just dark and cold. It was nothing there, nothing I could see, just myself alone and cold. That’s when I stopped meditating.

 

 

Doing Your Best Without the Stress of Perfectionism

SOURCE:http://tinybuddha.com/blog/doing-your-best-without-stress-of-perfectionism/

Doing Your Best Without the Stress of Perfectionism
By Julia Felberbauer

Stressed

“Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.” ~Robert H. Schuller

Have you ever been stopped in your tracks by perfectionism? Would you rather not do something if you can’t be sure it will be perfect? Although this kind of thinking doesn’t make much sense, I understand it, because I’ve been there.

I’d like to share with you some insights that helped me overcome my own deeply ingrained perfectionism and the unhappiness and stagnation it caused me.
Avoiding perfectionism doesn’t mean avoiding quality work and high achievement.

I am someone who loves making sure that even the smallest details of my work are right, and that the work I deliver lives up to my highest standards.

I used to think that the opposite of perfectionism was doing sloppy work, so I tried that for a while, but it really didn’t sit well with me. I don’t know about you, but I like to do something well and make it good quality work, and doing something less than that makes me feel bad.

If giving your best is what you do naturally, then doing something only half as well as you could just to avoid the trap of perfectionism isn’t going to help you. Trying this has always made me feel stressed because I was going against my nature and because I didn’t like the work I produced. So what to do?
Who defines your “perfect”?

I think perfectionism is really fear of being judged by others. It’s actually likely that others will judge us for what we do and say, but in most cases, we can get over it because it’s not so bad—or because we have to.

However, a perfectionist never looks to compassionate and wise people and imagines how they might judge them! For example, when I am writing a new blog post, I never think of what my grandmother or the Dalai Lama would say about it. (It would probably be something like, “It’s wonderful that you express yourself creatively and try to help others at the same time!”)

Instead, the people I have in mind are the cynical journalists whose articles I read (which is really my own fault) and the mean and angry people who post anonymous insults in online newspaper forums. I’m pretty sure they would actually hate what I have to say, but why do I pick them as my internal jury?

This internal process is what I call destructive perfectionism, because it’s a way in which we beat ourselves up and possibly feel so stifled that we never even start our work, or never dare show it to anyone.
Constructive perfectionism is the fuel you need to move forward.

Destructive perfectionism stops you in your tracks. Constructive perfectionism allows you to start and do your best—even if a year from now you find it amateurish. That’s how great things get done; you have to start somewhere and work your way up.

I started getting into strength training, movement art, and gymnastics over a year ago because I wanted to move as capably, strongly, and gracefully as the movement teachers I admire. I soon found that achieving this in a short time frame was highly unrealistic, meaning: For a long time I looked and felt more like an elephant doing gymnastics than an actual movement artist.

But the vision of what is possible kept me going, and now I am a far better and stronger mover than when I started, even though I am miles away from what I want to achieve. If I had given up after one attempt because it wasn’t perfect, I’d still be a couch potato!

In my journey away from perfectionism, I also stopped beating myself up and driving myself so far that I came by several injuries, and started enjoying the movement and the small progress I made every day.

Maybe I will never reach the kind of athletic ability and grace that I long for, but I am enjoying the process so much and doing my health a big favor. So I hope you take this to heart and start enjoying yourself by doing what you love and giving it your best.

Life is too short to miss out on the pleasure of doing something well just because others might judge you or you might not get it right. As they say: Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.

Photo by Helga Weber

About adrenal fatigue – Ramblings

DSC06970

My most difficult task is to slow down.

I mean, it’s not so difficult to slow down, the most difficult thing is to stop longing to achieve lots and lots of things.

After about 2 years of trial and errors with my health I came to the conclusion that I need to stop the cortisol and adrenaline rush to be allow my body to recover from the prolonged stress it went through.

I still have the feeling at the end of the day that I have not achieved anything that day (even if caring for 3 preschool and school children, with various health issues, is quite a task in itself).

I still have to force myself to limit my “screen” time and especially to limit it 1.5 – 2 hrs before going to bed.

I still have to use all my “force” to convince myself to go to sleep at 9.30 (for a 7.30 wake-up) to be able to achieve my 10 hours sleep a night.

I still have to be extremely disciplined to avoid getting 20 books from the library (which really stresses me out) at once.

I am just doing my best!

 

 

 

 

SaLuSa via Mike Quinsey ~ 1 August 2014

Forever Unlimited

Hi Friends,

At last I have recovered from my latest computer failure. Lost all of my files, so have been busy setting things up yet again. At least I can now send out my messages, and the Emails are set up. So I am hoping for a long period of successful computer work.

In Love and Light. Mike Quinsey.

SaLuSa via Mike Quinsey ~ 1 August 2014

For you life seems to move slowly and every moment is imprinted upon your mind, yet in reality the changes are swiftly taking place. There has never been a time when so much is happening so quickly. You are speeding along towards remarkable changes and nothing will be able to hold them back. The mould has been set for a swift change to all that is needed to bring the long awaited New Age into being. You are part of a complex plan…

View original post 1,078 more words

Strawberry Coconut “Yogurt”

Dr. Jenn's Recipes

lazy

Strawberry Coconut “Yogurt”

This is a great dairy free “yogurt” that is quick and easy when you don’t have the time to make the cultured version.

Makes about 1 quart
1 can organic (Native Forest Classic or Natural Value) coconut milk
1 organic avocado
1 organic banana that already has a few brown spots
2 cups frozen, organic strawberries
3 servings of your favorite probiotic powder

In a blender, mix all ingredients until smooth. It can be stored in the fridge for 3-5 days. Add some cripy nuts on top for some crunch!  YUM!

View original post